Friday, 25 March 2016

Comparison vs Contentment

J has a few classmates who are all-rounders. They seem to be good in sports, studies, music and have leadership capabilities. I will not trade my son for anyone and I truly thank God for his kind heart and helpful nature, but I have asked myself if I could have done more when J was younger so that he would be excellent in every domain too.

Then, around us are peers who are very wealthy. It almost seems we HDB dwellers are amongst the minority, considering the number of people we know who live in private housing. Last week, J had a play date with two friends who were driven in enormous MPVs. Our sedan looked like a midget next to those giants.

We could very well be discontent with our lot, but I thank God that success in His eyes is quite different from how humans view it. I am reminded of a conversation I had with former classmates. We were talking about our A levels grades (Fine. I know it has been approximately 20 years since we graduated from JC) and someone mentioned she scored only 2 As. One classmate encouraged her by saying she was the most successful among all of us now. Monetarily, she was probably the highest wage earner and owned the largest property among our group. Oddly, I felt a sense of calm and knew that I was successful - in His eyes.

"Commit your ways to the Lord and your plans will be established." Proverbs 16:3

"Delight yourself in the Lord and He will grant you the desires of your heart." Psalm 37: 4

"Wherever you go and whatever you do, you will be blessed." Deut 28:6

As we commemorate the day Jesus gave His life for us, I thank God for His love and His promises towards us. I may not be the wealthiest financially, but I have peace that surpasses all understanding and joy that gives me strength. And that is sufficient for me.

Incidentally, I read this today in the Mission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson: "We must strive as a family to keep our focus on the eternal, not the ordinary. We must be willing to pay the cost of discipleship, determined to lay up our treasures in heaven. When we do this, our children will have the freedom and peace to know that God is not measuring them by how much money they make, what kind of car they drive, or how big a house they are able to buy. By God's standards, our children will be successful in life if they are willing to love and follow Jesus Christ wherever they are asked to go."

May we remember what matter in eternity and strive for success in those things.

They are like trees planted along the riverbank, bearing fruit each season. Their leaves never wither, and they prosper in all they do. Psalm 1 : 3

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