Monday, 14 March 2016

In His Time

Straits Times reported last Friday that 70% of people in the 25 to 29 age group are singles and experts opined that this has affected fertility rates.

Now and then, I pine for a third child and wish I had got married earlier. However, affairs of the heart are unpredictable and by the time I met Lyn and ascertained that he was the one I wanted to marry, I was in my late twenties. Among my peers who are single, I think most are not single by choice.

The timing of a child's conception was also not within our control. Given a choice, we would have had the second child within three years of the first. However, Little An came six years after J.

It is not prudent for me to have another child now and I sometimes feel a tinge of disappointment at the thought. However, I look at my life's circumstances and know that there is a season for everything. I believe that God knows the best time for us to get married and to have children. As I hold on to this belief, I am at peace and I rejoice that I have two beautiful children to care for and love.

He has made everything beautiful in its time.
He has also set eternity in the human heart, yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to the end. Ecclesiastes 3:11
The reported issue is still very much a societal concern, but for individuals, I would think the best action is to pray that God would bring a suitable life partner and grant healthy children and not be vexxed while waiting. Every season of life can be a good season and we should make the best of every moment.

Having said that, I fully support Prof Paulin Straughan's suggestion to employers to switch off all office lights by 7p.m. to allow workers some personal time. That does not only benefit singles but parents with children as well. In countries such as New Zealand, the knock-off time is much earlier and I guess that leads to higher productivity and better family life. Also, I would encourage singles to pursue their dreams while they have no commitment to a spouse or children. I am putting studies on hold now since my children are young and have made other sacrifices too.

To end, I would like to thank God for a blessed life and I would have it no other way.

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