Thursday, 22 February 2018

No condemnation

"There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." Romans 8 : 1

I came across this verse twice in a day and thought God must have had a message for me. I attended New Creation Church for a couple of years and although I am no longer attending that church, that period was a significant period for me. I became more Christ-conscious than sin-conscious. However, being a sensitive person, I am still sometimes self-conscious and I am sorry that that has somehow led me to be overly concerned about what others may think of my children and me.

When J mentioned that his teacher deduced he had no home support for Chinese, my immediate response was to say that maybe his work was horrid and J was understandably hurt by my words. Recently too, J thought there were some tests coming up in school and actually studied for them. When a parent asked in the parents' chat group if there were tests, I confidently replied that there were. Some parents were alarmed and when we found out later that there were no tests except for Chinese, I felt terrible and interrogated J about the wrong information. The school handbook had stated there were mini assessments in Term 1 and based on the date given for Chinese, J had deduced the dates for the other subjects! Actually, these were such small matters and I was sorry for being so affected by what others may think of my son and me. I could have been pleased that he was so self-motivated and studied on his own instead of blaming him for transmitting wrong information.

I also came across this very encouraging post by Sally Clarkson: Children are all so unique: Don't be overwhelmed by criticism. In the post, Sally shared that her children were all unique. She was told time and again that one of her children needed firmer discipline. Another child did not reply her when she was talking, being an artistic child who was probably creating something in his mind. However, all her children are well-adjusted adults who love and serve God fervently now. Sally ended the post with this:

How would you describe your own children?
Do you want them to fit into your expectations of what they should do or how they should behave or are you looking inside to draw out the person God made them to be?

Speak forward into who they will become, take time to love them as they are,
rest in the patience that they will grow and then you will see the miracle of who they were meant to be over the years.
Take time to think about the ways they are unique individuals - and gifts to you!  

I was so comforted to read those words. Thank God also for reminding me that I am free from condemnation. Today, I read about what Billy Graham said he would do differently in his career when he was interviewed in 2011: I would study more. I would pray more..... If I had it to do over again, I'd spend more time in meditation and prayer and just telling the Lord how much I love him. There is so much wisdom in that, to take time to listen to what God tells us, rather than to what the world tells us. May I take the path of wisdom. :) 

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